RacismSchool: An “Ally” Story
TW: Cissexism & Trans* phobia
Many things that I write about being an ally come from my personal life. Things that I wish someone had told me as well as things I wish I could tell other people. I have been debating on writing this story for a while now. I am ashamed of it.
This is my “Ally” story.
Resources and support groups for LGBTQ Muslims
- Queer Muslims - A space for queer Muslims to connect, express themselves and share resources. (A real treasure trove of articles, links and book reviews).
- ‘I am not Haraam’ project - a blog for LGBTQ Muslims to celebrate their identities and share their experiences.
Source: the website of the Safra project based in the UK. The full list (which also includes resources not solely targeted at Muslims can be found by clicking here.) However, below is a list of the resources specifically targeted to Muslims.
- Imaan - UK based
A social support group for Muslim lesbian, gays, bisexuals, transgender, those questioning their sexuality or gender identity and their friends and supporters.
- Safra Project- UK based
A Resource Project working on issues relating to lesbian, bisexual. trans, queer and questioning women who identify as Muslim religiously and/or culturally.
Listserve-dealing with issues concerning lesbian, bisexual and transgender women that identify as Muslim religiously or culturally.
- Safra Project Social Group- meets monthly in the UK, check website events notice for dates and venues.
- Salaam Canada
‘Salaam: Queer Muslim community’ is a Muslim Identified Organization dedicated to social justice, peace and human dignity through its work to bring all closer to a world that is free from injustice, including prejudice, discrimination, racism, misogyny, sexism and homophobia.
- The Inner Circle
The Inner Circle strives to reconcile sexuality and faith, and foster friendship through a positive peer group for gay, lesbian, transgendered and other sexually marginalized persons particularly of the Muslim community, as well as persons of other religions or cultures who experience similar or related challenges, and all those who support our aims.
They provide information through news/events, articles, discussions and life-orientation. They also have experts and qualified voluntary workers to deal with your queries and counseling, assisting individuals in reconciling their faith with their sexuality and dealing with other sexually related issues.http://www.theinnercircle.org.za/
An email discussion group for Muslims who identify as bisexual or who may be questioning their sexual orientation. Anything relevant to the bisexual Muslim community can be discussed on this forum. It is intended to be a safe space for Muslims who are bisexual and who want tomeet other Muslims who are also bisexual.
- Muslim Gay Men
MuslimGayMen is a group for Muslim gay men and their friends and allies.
- Partners of LGBT Muslims
To bring non-Muslim partners (who are in relationships with Muslims) together to discuss issues of common concern.
- TransMuslims (need Yahoo sign in)
An email discussion group for Muslims who identify as transgender, and for those that consider themselves gender variant. This includes anyone that identifies as an MTF (male to female) or an FTM (female to male). Issues of relevance to the Trans Muslim community are welcome on this list, including gender identity, issues of gender socialization in Islam, sex reassignment surgery, and Islam’s views towards transgendered people.
- Queer Jihad
A web site devoted to the needs of GLBT Muslims. Website:http://www.well.com/user/queerjhd/
- Queer Muslims
Resources for GLBT Muslims. Has information about Islam and Transsexuals.
This needs a LOT more notes. Signal boost this people. This is important.
Shifting the Focus From Individual Bullies and Victims to School Culture
While eliminating violent acts is imperative, reducing the concept of a hostile school environment to the acts of individual (troubled) students who can be rehabilitated merely contains and manages the violence, rather than addressing its causes. When the absence of reported bullying functions as the indicator of a safe or inclusive school for LGBTQ students and families, we fail to account for the social processes at work in sustaining the patterns of homophobic bullying and the — subtle, often unintentional — ways schools help to sustain these patterns decade after decade, beginning in the early years of schooling.
We want to challenge the taken-for-granted conceptualization of LGBTQ youths’ school experiences and argue for a broader understanding that encompasses cultural systems of power — specifically along lines of gender and sexuality — that persistently privilege specific groups of youth while marginalizing others. In other words, we need to examine how U.S. culture assumes heterosexuality and traditional gender expressions to be “normal” and “right” and how such values permeate the policies, procedures, and curricula in K-12 schools, making non-traditional gender expressions and sexualities “not normal” and “wrong/bad” or “less than” and thus potential targets.
Shifting the definition of “the problem” in this way demands a different framing of peer-to-peer aggression than that which underlies the dominant bullying discourse. It requires recognition of how patterns of targeting serve the purpose of enforcing strict cultural expectations around gender and sexuality — and how these cultural expectations are being taught and reinforced by the schools themselves. Further, this shift calls for an examination of how aggression functions in youths’ pursuit of social status in elementary, middle and high school.
Because victim blaming isn’t just for rape/sexual assault victims/survivors…
Here’s the real thing that’s fucked about the opposition to blackpeoplemeet, all-Black fraternities, all-Black clubs, all all-Black anything ever, etc and so forth.
You know how sometimes obnoxious white children who drool on Confederate flags will basically tell you that enslaved Black folks were treated well? Almost like a part of the family?
Ok then, ignoring the basic flawless refusal to accept simple things in history concerning enslavement in America, explain segregation to me.
Then after you’ve explained how segregation (even though some Black folks preferred it at the time) was white folks treating Black folks like people, explain to me how we’re allowed to get upset that Black folks have their own spaces, even though a LOT of those spaces were created during or came up in the wake of segregation when Black folks didn’t have a choice to be included in anything unless it was an all-Black space.
(oh and segregation was put in place by white people who wanted a ‘safe space’ even though America has been a safe space for white people for centuries, and segregation didn’t mean ‘we stay here and you stay there’, it meant ‘we can come into your space and fuck it all up at our whim, but you can’t even think about stepping into ours, under penalty of death, or worse, etc)
So then after you’re done explaining to me how personally attacked we’re supposed to feel about a condition we created, then I can explain to you what a safe space is.
Safe spaces exist in a variety of places for a variety of reasons. The locations are, we hope, any place where a group of people cannot continually function alongside another group that oppresses them. There are any number of reasons why they exist, but they are necessary for PoC, queer folks, trans* folks, disabled folks, women, those who are continually ‘other’ed, those who are afraid of using a ‘public’ bathroom, of speaking out of place, of being trampled, of being raped, of being murdered, specifically because the rest of the world is a ‘safe space’ for those who would mistreat you with no fear of rebuttal or judgement.
This is the difference between blackpeoplemeet and whitepeoplemeet. It’s the difference between all-Black fraternities and all-white fraternities. It’s the difference between Womanism/Feminism and the Menz Rightz Activiztz. It’s the different between gay bars and straight-only bars. It’s the difference between neutral bathrooms and gendered bathrooms. It’s the difference between thisiswhiteprivilege and thisisblackprivilege. It’s the difference between the self-defense of the oppressed and the aggression of the oppressor.
The former is created by the latter. The former is a necessary movement to counter the normalization of the latter, and those who are made to be ‘other’ because of it. And that is why safe spaces are necessary.
And if you want to focus on how horrible it is that oppressed people ‘get’ safe spaces instead of concentrating on the conditions that made them necessary for survival, you are a fuckpuddle of epic proportions.
Enjoy the Pride Parade today, Boston <3
I look forward to seeing every one of your beautiful selves when you march by, all smiles and love. <3